For those following the case, Michael Devlin was sentenced this week to three life sentences, in addition to the one he is already serving, so that make four in all. I meant to write about this earlier, but I needed time to collect my thoughts. This is a post I have struggled over whether to write at all; even though I blog semi-anonymously I don't want to damage my reputation, but at the same time, I feel I have something to add.
Believe it or not, I actually knew this guy.
In January of this year, I was serving in Iraq. I was lying in my bunk on Camp Liberty one day, watching the news on a small TV I had bought. A few times they mentioned a Michael Devlin, a guy in Missouri (my home state) who had kidnapped two boys and kept one of them in his home for years. I didn't pay much attention to it, until the above photo showed up on Fox News. My first thought was: "hey, that looks a lot like Devo", a person I used to know from my hometown. Then I looked again. It really looked like Devo. Then suddenly I put together a few words I had heard floating around the report: Missouri...city of Kirkwood...Imo's Pizza..."Oh my G*d. It is DEVO!!"
"Devo" was the nickname everyone called him, and in fact, I didn't even know his legal name. But I did know him fairly well, although I wouldn't exactly describe him as a friend. As far as I knew, he had never committed any crime, other than occasionally smoking marijuana, and the last time I saw him was sometime in 2001, which was about a year before he got into the kidnapping business.
I grew up in Saint Louis County, in the city of Ladue (really a suburb), which was right next to Kirkwood. In late 1998, my initial enlistment with the Army was up, and I moved back to Ladue until 2001, when I left to work for the Army full time again after I was commissioned. It was during this time that I met Devo.
The reason I knew him was because he was the housemate of one of my long time best friends, who I'll just call "M.A." (who doesn't want to be publicly identified). M.A. was renting a house in Kirkwood, and when one roommate moved out, he needed another one to share the rent. Through mutual friends at the nearby Kirkwood Imo's Pizza (where Devlin worked) he met Devlin, and invited him to move in. Once he told me that Devlin was not the ideal housemate, but at least he consistently paid his share of rent and bills.
I saw Devo when I came over to visit, which was about once a week or so. My friend and I were into various role-playing/war/card games and played on a regular basis with some other friends. We were sort of reliving a hobby we all once had in high school (yes, I was a gamer geek). It got me out of the house once in a while, and as far as my wife was concerned, any time I spent off the computer was a good thing. As it so happened, Devo was a gamer too. He would always join us if he was there. A couple of our friends refused to play if he was around, because they didn't like his mannerisms. He annoyed me a little too, but he was a good player, and frankly, I felt sorry for him. Our usual game of choice was "Magic: The Gathering", which I used to love before it became too commercial. Devo was good at it. We would all spend hours into the night, having a few beers, and swapping stories. Devo spoke little about his family or personal life, even though I tried to get him to open up a little. He never did. He openly spoke about politics, news, anything else going on in the world however. He was more or less a libertarian and very opinionated.
The weird thing is, the Devo described on TV is not the one I knew at all. Some things were similar: the anti-social reclusive behavior, and his quick temper I remember very well. But some things don't fit. I mean, here he is in the news, driving around in a truck, waving a gun and kidnapping kids. But when I knew him, he: 1) didn't have a car or even a driver's license (a couple times I gave him rides places), 2) didn't know anything about guns, and 3) had zero ambition or motivation to do anything at all, much less a brazen act like kidnapping. In fact, it was a rare day he would even get his fat ass off the couch to do anything at all, except when he had to go to work. Otherwise, he would spend all long watching TV, eating potato chips, and using his PlayStation for hours at a time.
There was also no indication he was homosexual; he certainly didn't act effeminate - quite the opposite, in fact. He didn't date or ever have a girlfriend that I knew of, but we all assumed it was because he was overweight and had terrible hygiene habits. I never asked him about his love life, because I figured his luck with women was pretty dismal. What I wanted to tell him was to shave his beard, lose weight and take regular showers, and then he might find a girlfriend. Also he should go back to school and get a real job... (while everyone else from his neighborhood went off to college, Devo was 33 and had essentially stayed at the same job since high school). But I was too polite to say any of this. Instead, I was hoping he might emulate our example. No such luck.
I have a close (liberal) friend who insists that men who sexually abuse boys are not necessarily homosexual, since men who do this "cross those boundaries". Similarly, I've had debates with homosexual advocates who insist that since pedophilia is entirely different than normal sexual impulses, then you can't use the label "homosexual" to describe the abuse of boys by grown men. This self-help document echoes this sentiment:Myth No. 2 - Homosexual males perpetrate most sexual abuse of boys.
Paedophiles who molest boys are not expressing a homosexual orientation any more than paedophiles that molest girls are practicing heterosexual behaviours. While many child molesters have gender and or age preferences, the vast majority of those who seek out boys are not homosexual. They are paedophiles.
This doesn't make any sense. Why isn't it possible to be both? I find these arguments unpersuasive, and more like a defensive reaction by gay advocates to disassociate homosexuals from child sexual abuse in the mind of the public. This abuse, by the numbers, is disproportionally man/boy. Devlin could have kidnapped girls instead of boys but he made a deliberate choice not to. He preferred boys. The most notorious such abuser in modern memory, Father John Geoghan has been accused of molesting over 130 people - all boys. He may have had more access to boys than girls, but the fact that he consistently chose boys time and time again over a period of many years shows that he definitely preferred boys over girls, which in my mind, is the very definition of homosexuality. Next they might try to tell me that men who prefer elderly men are not homosexual either?
I think there might be a strong cultural bias as well. Both Michael Devlin and John Geoghan didn't (openly) identify themselves as gay, or used "queer" as a badge of pride. Neither of them acted with the stereotypical mannerisms of homosexuals, or were involved with gay advocate groups or the political scene. It seems that to some, one or all of the above is the litmus test for homosexuality; nevertheless, I don't see what any of that really has to do with it.
I've also seen a variation of this argument, where some gay advocates agreed with the Iranian President's recent statement that "there are no homosexuals in Iran", an argument that drove Andrew Sullivan crazy recently. One of the few times I agreed with him.
But I'm getting off the subject. The lesson here? I don't know if there really is one. It was a tragedy however. Not only for the boys who were kidnapped, but for this wasted life as well. Devo was a smart guy. Very smart. I have no doubt he could have become a doctor, lawyer, or world class scientist if he wanted to. But for his own reasons, he was content to live an absolutely mediocre life, until his dissatisfaction boiled over into criminal action.
I never met his family, so I don't know how he was raised. But sometimes, I can't help thinking that my friends, especially my friend M.A., could have done more than we did. But people can be stubborn when you try to help them, and Devo was more stubborn than most. More importantly, none of us had any idea what he was capable of, or the vast, bottled up demons that he was dealing with inside.
Four life sentences is a hell of a sentence, although I suppose it is just. Still, it is far more than the outrageously light 5 year sentence given to the similar case of Kevin Parnell, who kidnapped Steven Stayner at age 7 and held him for seven years (years later, he got life after attempting another abduction however).
I'm tempted to visit Devo in jail someday, but I have no idea what I would say to him. I doubt he will ever get out of prison, nor am I certain he should. All I can do is pray for him and his two victims.
Meanwhile, back in Iraq, I told my teammates about Devo after the story broke - I couldn't resist; it just so happened that we had one officer that had insisted several times that hard core gamers like myself, the "Dungeons & Dragons crowd", were all nuts and wierdos. I guess I just wanted the chance to tease him and make him wonder if I was criminally insane as well. Instead, for a little while, "FREE DEVO!" become a rallying cry for my mates to tease me every chance they got...
UPDATE 24/10/2007 09:39:00 AM:
Just to clarify something: I stopped seeing Devo when my friend, M.A., got married and moved to Chicago. After that they both went their separate ways. That is probably one of the people Devo was referring to when he said:"I guess you could say I was lonely. All my friends starting getting married and having kids," he said. "Hanging out with friends just becomes a lower priority [for them]."
Something else I just noticed from that same interview:Devlin, 41, said his life took a dramatic turn in 2002, when he was diagnosed with diabetes, which led to amputations of the big toe and another toe on his right foot in 2003, shortly after Hornbeck went missing.
Undoubtedly, the diabetes was aggravated by the case after case of Mountain Dew soda that he would go through every day...The loss of his toes made it difficult for him to maintain his balance and he had to give up his passion for hunting and fishing, Devlin said.
"I'm an outdoorsman, but not anymore," he said.
What the hell?? An "outdoorsman"? I never saw him do anything the slightest bit active or "outdoorsish". Nor did I ever see a fishing pole, hunting rifle, or even a tent anywhere near the man. But then again, he was keeping plenty of secrets from the world, so maybe that was another one...
UPDATE 16/11/2007 12:00:00 AM:
After weeks of trying to get ahold of him, I finally heard from "MA". He told me:I agree with your assessment, except for the part where you state that we could have done more to alter the course of X's [Devo's] direction, ... One thing is for certain about X is that he was as deceptive in real life as he was with a deck of cards in his hand and we all just got chain lightninged for 666 points of damage. [a reference to Dungeons & Dragons meaning we were all burned] There was nothing that could have been done to keep him from playing that card, he was just waiting for the right time to play it all along.
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